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I am being sued by my common law wife of 3 years and it hurts She has made my life a misery ever since i met her I wish I had never met her. Dammit!

     Submitted by Tom 12:25:46 18/12/96

In answer to Tom's post about his common-law wife... do you mind if I ask why she's suing you? Regardless, it's gotta be rough. I've been in few relationships in my life (I'm only 25) and don't have a lot of experience in terms of long term committment... in fact, one could say I've shied away from it, if unconsciously. One of the reasons being that they tend to be a bit unbalanced when I do. That is to say that I committ, and she doesn't. I feel for you, big guy. Hang in there, if you let it, it'll get easier.

     Submitted by David Veatch 14:18:25 26/3/97

I'd also like to ask Tom if I may. Why did he stay with her for three years when she made his life a misery since they first met. I have a number of close friends gong through separation at the moment and its a shit of a thing to happen. But unfortunately it does happen and I honestly believe its how we as individuals can learn to take responsibility for our part in the mess that was our relationship. As a wise old man once told me "To come to terms with oursleves in this world, we have to be prepared to be part of the problem in ways we may not even understand right now" Good luck Tom I hope it all works out for you.

     Submitted by Rob Brown 6:59:30 5/4/97

I am a recent visitor to the page and the first thing that strikes me is the pages initial comments that men's experience is shared - I wonder what the basis of this comment is. The second thing that strikes me is the lack of comment on some pages that I thought would contain volumns of comments. As men are we so dumbstruck by or socialisation and other social changes that we have no comment to make? I am constantly offended by articles written in the popular press that denegrate men. I wonde if there are other out there who feel similar outrage?

     Submitted by Harvey Wilson 12:29:21 4/6/97

i am so sick of being attacked by the media and other special interest groups because i have a penis, as a white male i am a representitive of the only group in the free world that has no recourse for the constant and MALICOUS slandering of wich there is no escape . i truly fear for todays youth , young males are suffering an identity crisis , medias agenda to enlighten the masses about the evil that men do has taken a serious toll, can men not be proud of their gender without accusations of patriarchy rape and murder . this world was created by both genders . , here in canada two years ago three young girls 10 and under were late for school and arrived without their assignments their excuses exemplify the message that is being hammered into our childrens brains , their excuse was that they had been raped , some time later it was revealed that this was not true , only after a extensive search for the male rapist . i have felt the sting of the abuse of current public attitudes and the subsequint injust legal lynching that inhabit our court as a result of male bashing. it also worries me that as a frustrated male i can find virtually no one or ones with whom i can share my feelings

     Submitted by brewer 14:49:56 11/6/97

Hi I don't know if men in Australia get the American Ann Landers advice colum in your papers, but she is at it again, bashing men's sexuality. Here is her latest bash. Mystery Solved It seems that when the good Lord was making the world, he called Man aside and bestowed upon him 20 years of normal sex life. Man was horrified, but the Creator refused to budge. The Lord called the monkey and gave him 10 years. "But I don't kneed 20 years," said the monkey. "Ten years is plenty." Man spoke up and said: "May I have the other 10 years?" The monkey agreed. The Lord called on the lion an also gave him 20 years. The lion too, wanted only 10. Again, Man spoke up. "May I have their other 10 years?" "Of course," said the lion. Then came the donkey, who was also given 10 years. Like the others, 10 years was enough for him. Man again asked for the spare 10 years, and he got them. This explains why Man has 20 years of normal sex life, 10 years of monkeying around, 10 years of lion about it and 10 years of making a jackass out of himself. Mystery Solved It seems that when the good Lord was making the world, he called Man aside and bestowed upon him 20 years of normal sex life. Man was horrified, but the Creator refused to budge. The Lord called the monkey and gave him 10 years. "But I don't kneed 20 years," said the monkey. "Ten years is plenty." Man spoke up and said: "May I have the other 10 years?" The monkey agreed. The Lord called on the lion an also gave him 20 years. The lion too, wanted only 10. Again, Man spoke up. "May I have their other 10 years?" "Of course," said the lion. Then came the donkey, who was also given 10 years. Like the others, 10 years was enough for him. Man again asked for the spare 10 years, and he got them. This explains why Man has 20 years of normal sex life, 10 years of monkeying around, 10 years of lion about it and 10 years of making a jackass out of himself. If you find this funny, well it may be good we laugh at our selves, but for me, who is the "lion" stage of life, I don't like the thought of millions of women getting off on this terrible sterotype. As we all become "Silver tops" as seniors are referred to here, we all may have problems around our sexuality, not the least of being, can we get it and keep it up. Ann hurts us all by continuing to run stories and comments that continue to say men are overly sexed, or so I believe. If you can write Ann Landers with your comments, please do so. In my area of the world, the address is Ann Landers, c/o Silcon VAlley Life, Mercury News, 759 Ridder Park Dr. San Jose, Calif. 95190. Let's let her know that there are some out here that resent the continuing bashing of men! Sincerely yours, Raj A. Secura, Ph.D.

     Submitted by Raj Secura 3:27:53 13/6/97