preemie-l Agressive behaviour reply
C. Hewitt (hewitt@cyg.net)
Thu, 13 Jun 1996 13:01:14 -0400
Agressive behaviour can be found in preemies who otherwise are fine.
Agressive behaviour is also typical of three year olds.
Stupid question here. Is this behaviour over and above that found normally?
My older son went through a period of agression directed at his brother, he
was fine with other kids. We finally set rule #1 in our house. Be nice to
your brother. The "punishment" was being put in a room by himself for a
while. No exceptions to the rule. This was the only rule we had for a long
time. We let a lot of other stuff go in order to concentrate on this. He
is a lot better now but still has times where he says he wants to do things
to his brother. But it is words now, not actions.(mostly) And this is now
age appropriate or so we have been told. Daycare, preschool etc really
helped in modelling appropriate behaviour by other children.
Book - How to talk so kids will listen.
Positive reinforcement is great, but they have to have consequences set
for their actions.
He is the most wonderful child and I hate to see him so aggressive
and angry because he thinks that is the only way we will pay attention to
him. We have also tried positive reinforcement with lots of hugs and time
alone with each parent but this only works for a brief time before he reverts
back to agressive behavior. HELP ! !