Re: preemie-l Preparing for a Second Baby
Amy & Kyle Ellars (lrz@indy.net)
Thu, 20 Jun 1996 23:40:19 -0700
Todd, Suzanne and Glenn Palmer wrote:
Also, if you want to share your feelings about wanting to get
> pregnant again, please feel free to mail me. I know how it feels.
>
> Sometimes I wonder if it's partly an effort to compensate for the loss of my
> pregnancy; because it is a loss, even if the baby (the most important
> thing) isn't lost, you know? I was very angry for a long time. It was my
> first pregnancy, I loved being pregnant most of the time, and to have it cut
> short unexpectedly was more upsetting for me than I realized at first. And
> I'll never have the opportunity to experience it as I did for the first
> time, because I'll always have children at home from now on, and will be
> unable to become selfishly absorbed in my body and the pregnancy as I was
> the first time.
>
> I hope little Zoe is doing well and that you're getting a little rest.
> Believe it or not, things get so much easier once they come home!
>
> Take care, Amy.
>
> Suzanne (Mom to Glenn, 34 weeker, 8.5 months)
Suzanne,
Thank you for sharing what you've gone through. I thought I've been
selfish for feeling the same way.
I had my postpartum exam on Monday. Unfortunately it went the way I
thought it would: "There's a small chance the same thing won't happen
again. You do need to wait at least a year before getting pregnant
again. We're not recomending that you don't have any more children, at
this time."
The Dr seemed nervous the whole time. Maybe I'm being paranoid. I'm not
going to feel guilty for wanting more children. And I'm not giving up on
having them.
I, too, loved being pregnant. Even though the outcome wasn't as planned,
I want to experience it again. So, for now, I'm concentrating on getting
my blood pressure down & getting me & Zoë as healthy as possible before I
attempt to get pregnant.
Thanks for listening/reading!
Amy-wife to Kyle & mommy to Zoë-5/9/96 1lb 12 oz(Already 3lb 11oz)