Re: preemie-l several questions from new preemie mom
Amy & Kyle Ellars (lrz@indy.net)
Thu, 20 Jun 1996 23:06:38 -0700
> 1. Has anyone lost friends because you have a preemie baby, that
> may be potentially special needs?
> I have, 2 very close (so I thought) friends dropped me like a
> hot potato when I gave birth to my son Adam(24 weeks, 5/2/96,
> 1lb13oz) The wife thought I would want to drop other 2 kids off
> w/ her when I went to visit Adam.(And this is someone that runs
> to church each time the preacher puts the key in the door.)
> I've also had people I've invited to go to the hospital w/ me
> flatly refuse, because NICU would make them cry or they are
> frightened by the idea of an ICU for babies.
Jackie,
Sure some friends and relatives don't know how to treat me, Kyle or Zoë.
The family, I'm giving another chance. The friends, were they ever?
Most people are great but some have already labeled her as mentally
retarded, blind, disabled, etc...
Hang in there! Unfortunately there are many insensitive people out
there.
Amy-wife to Kyle & mommy to Zoë born 5/9/96 1lb 12 oz