I just read Shelli's post and I also feel the same way she does. I feel more enlightened after struggling through a crisis. Our priorities can get "out of order" and the jolt from the kind of experiences we had force us to re-examine those. I wouldn't want to repeat it either! But I don't feel scarred. Geri Nix Mother to Kelly (26 weeker, 730 grams, now 5, 32lbs.) and Steven (full term, now 10)