Re: Jealousy

Cris Coffey (CCOFFEY@rugs.bry.indiana.edu)
Fri, 29 Mar 1996 16:30:38 EST5 

Cynthia,

I say, go for it!  Problems or no problems, babies are true miracles. 
 And the harder you have to work for them, the more special they are. 
Just like you, I've felt this longing in the past couple of days to 
have another child--it's the maternal instinct thing and just wanting 
to be pregnant again....and to do it right!

I'm sure your mother is concerned, but if she's anything like my own 
mother, she will adore the new baby.  My mother has actually 
threatened me....we live an hour apart, and during my 16 weeks of 
torture she was with me every weekday, hospital or no hospital, and 
many nights she slept in our spare room so she wouldn't have to drive 
again the next morning to care for me when Keith left for work.  My 
dad got awfully lonely and began calling daily!  Mom's threat--next 
time around she's moving me in with her, and KEITH can do the 
driving!  I know she secretly wants me to have another child, 
although she doesn't want me to suffer again.  But my whole family 
carries the same attitude: that my giving up four months of my life is a 
very small sacrifice to bring us another child to love!  It still 
scares me, but I think one day I'll be willing to try this again just 
like you!

Cris

Date:          Fri, 29 Mar 1996 14:49:51 -0600
To:            preemie-l@vicnet.net.au
From:          Cynthia Faullin <cfaullin@uiuc.edu>
Subject:       Jealousy

I don't ever actually feel jealous or envious of other pregnant women.  But
I do get that longing feeling whenever I see them.  God, I just want another
shot at it.  Actually talking to you all over the past few days has made
that feeling even stronger.  I told Mike yesterday that I definitely wanted
to have another baby and he agreed.  We're still going to wait at least
another year though.  I know that you're thinking I'm crazy but I can't help
it.  I want to get huge and go through labour and experience it.  My mother
has forbidden me to have more children, so I'm not even going to tell her.
What do you think?  Cynthia.  


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