RE: Just a few things..

Cindi Winkley (cindiw@zianet.com)
Thu, 28 Mar 1996 20:54:09 -0700 

Yvonne's story about the Father's Day weekend plans she didn't get to =
enjoy reminded me of my poor husband's birthday.  My parents were =
visiting and we had planned a big night out on the town (we lived in =
Seattle at the time) to celebrate.  Then I was rushed to the hospital =
and began my bedrest. So, we planned to get take-out from our favorite =
seafood restaurant, got some wonderful bottles of wine, a birthday cake, =
etc. and planned a little party in my hospital room.

Unfortunately, a couple of hours before the party my water broke!  Happy =
Birthday!  Instead of a party, my husband had to sit in my room and =
worry while my cerclage was taken out in an operating room and then had =
to stand by my bed and hold my hand while I had an amniocentisis.  =20

Cindi Winkley

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From: 	ypaschke[SMTP:ypaschke@cclink.fhcrc.org]
Sent: 	Thursday, March 28, 1996 6:45 PM
To: 	preemie-l@vicnet.net.au
Subject: 	Just a few things..

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     Hello Everyone:
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     I, too felt awful about being on bedrest. =20
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     I was planning a special weekend for my husband and I for fathers
     day weekend, and ended up in the hospital the friday before we were =

     suppose to leave.
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     I felt sooo guilty because I could not "spoil him" with breakfast =
in
     bed, father's day gifts, or a special dinner.  Our anniversary was
     5 days later, and I couldn't even get him a card!  I did get to go
     home for the 4th of July week.  I was on the home monitoring system
     too.  But, it didn't last....I was home 5 days.  Back to the=20
     hospital.
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     My husband became a single father to our son instantly.  It hurt so
     much to watch them leave from my window.  My husband would try to
     visit every night on the way home from work and bring our son by on =

     the weekends.
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     The nurses were great.  They would play cards with me, get me dove
     ice cream bars, and espresso.  One night we ordered a pizza and had
     a little party in my room.  Shouldn't of ate the onions....
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     On the note of bosses/coworkers:
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     After darren's coworkers found out I was expecting twins and then =
on
     bedrest, they decided to take up a collection for us.  His =
supervisor
     raised over $900.00 for us!!  We were shocked!  My coworkers gave =
us
     over $100 for toys r' us.  Then a couple of darrens coworkers took =
us
     out for dinner, fixed us dinner, and watched tyler, so we could =
have
     some time for ourselves and our babies.
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     On the note of insurance:
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     I was on a COBRA plan when I tried to get pregnant, but it didn't =
work
     so we waited until open enrollment and I signed up for the best =
plan
     I could get because I already new I was high risk (too bad they=20
     didn't).  Technically, I got pregnant in december and coverage =
started
     in january.  But they (bc/bs of WA) go by your first check up.  =
Which
     was february, so they had to cover everthing.  They did try to deny
     coverage when I was on bedrest say it was "pre existing".  My =
benefits
     administrator set them straight!
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     Well, this is getting long winded, so I will close.  Have a great =
day!
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     Sincerely,
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     Yvonne