to Cris - See what I Mean
MASCCUA.MACK04 (MASCCUA.MACK04@ssw.alcoa.com)
28 Mar 1996 11:13:11 EST
On March 28, Cris wrote:
I'm wondering if any of you Moms out there felt the same way I did on
bed rest. It was the most degrading period in my life, even though I
was fighting so hard for something so good.
This is a perfect example of what I meant in my previous message about
Moms & Wives being my heros. You're enduring so much for both you AND
your husband - and you're worried that he had to fill your water pitcher
and empty the bedpan. I know he worked hard for you during that time
(been there), but remember - it was for him too.
If I have a complaint about my wife (and women in general), it's that she
doesn't realize how much I wanted these babies too. She saw everything I
had to do for her as an inconvenience to me, not as what had to be done
so WE could get these babies here healthy.
Sometimes I think women get such strong feelings (desire for having
babies, maternal instincts once they're here, etc.) that they forget that
men want children too. I've loved these kids since before I knew them,
and would have done ANYTHING for Lisa if I thought it would have helped.
Cris - You may not be able to do anything about the degrading feelings,
but just remember you and your husband did what needed to be done for
Brandon's health (and even survival!).
John