Re: Bonding

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Ina,

I know exactly what you mean by lack of bonding with our preemies.  I
did not feel like a "real mom" for a long time.  Up until they left the
hospital
I did not feel like Daniel and Michelle were mine.  After all, I had to ask
how they were doing, was it time to eat, could I hold them.....I think in
the long run we did bond and obviously now we are great.  I wasn't able to
hold the babies for several weeks after their birth, but I was able to talk
to them and touch them.  I would cup their feet and heads with my hands
to cuddle them the best I could.  The nurses said they knew my voice.  They
could have been making that up, but I accepted it.  I haven't had any
other babies so I don't know what immediate bonding would feel like.  I
probably never will.  But I take comfort in that they are well and appear to
be happy and secure babies.
Glad Devin is home!

Kim, Mommy to Daniel and Michelle  26 weekers 4-8-95

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