Re: Developmental Delays, Time Spent in NICU

Steven F. Holle (steve@oz.sunflower.org)
Mon, 04 Mar 1996 21:59:50 -0600


I've read a few posts on the "Our Kid's" (http://wonder.mit.edu/ok/) list 
that some children have been taught to sign while trying to express 
themselves.  I'm not sure what degree of speech delay has been experienced 
before this recommendation is made.  It was mentioned that signing gives a 
child another reference to assign meaning to words or phrases.

Developmental delays are my greatest worry at this point also.  For us, so 
far, so good.  But we're at only 3 months corrected.  I've heard a 
generalization that preemies can only learn "one thing at a time" where 
full-term infants can learn multiple things.  Can anyone provide any 
additional information?

As far as time spent in the NICU, we didn't observe that many parents present 
either, at first.  One parent seemed to be there 24 hours/day every day.  As 
we progressed through the experience we found many parents were there at 
different times of the day.  

For our own experience, we spent the first few days very close.  After a few 
days the NICU staff made us feel very comfortable with the care that our 
children were recieving was the best.  Combined with the medical training 
I've had and the quality of answers to our questions, they made us feel 
confident that we had nothing to fear.  Those first few weeks, we felt like 
we had very little to contribute, so we cut back to a couple of hours a day. 
 By the time they grew enough so that we could hold and feed them, we were 
limited by our employment and family obligations.  We tried to visit during 
feedings a couple times a day.  

We felt guilty not spending more time, but the staff made us feel comfortable 
with what we felt we could do.

Steve