Re: The Mack Women - Triplet Girls (fwd)
lorri@austin.ibm.com
Wed, 28 Feb 1996 23:53:01 -0600 (CST)
Sorry if this gets out twice. First time I am posting.
Lorri (mommy to Joshua 9/19/95)
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Date: Wed, 28 Feb 1996 15:39:16 -0600 (CST)
From:lorri@dfswizard.austin.ibm.com
To: "MASCCUA.MACK04" <MASCCUA.MACK04@ssw.alcoa.com>
Cc: preemie-l@vicnet.net.au
Subject: Re: The Mack Women - Triplet Girls
On 28 Feb 1996, MASCCUA.MACK04 wrote:
> At this point, I've need help with one problem - Lisa has alot of guilt
> feelings about not being able to carry the girls longer. She said things
> to me like, "You don't deserve to be put through this." Has anyone else
> felt this way and what can I do to help her deal with these feelings?
My son, Joshua was born Sept. 19th, 1995 (33wks) and I dealt with alot of
guilt about him being born premature. As Tom Hannah posted, you can
assure her that you do not blame her that she did everything she could.
(She really did go through alot!) My husband (also a Tom), would go on
and on listing all the things that I went through to help assure me that
I did everything right and that there was nothing else I could have done.
This did help, but it does not make it go away. Be patient with her-.no
matter how many times you have to tell her it was not her fault. I think
she needs to hear it over and over again. That is what helped me. Time
helps, too.
Lorri (mommy to Joshua 9/19/95)
PS. You picked some beautiful names for your girls!