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Coping with your feelings about other pregnant women after the birth of your premature baby.

"she" is bemoaning her "long" pregnancy and sharing the "woes" of the end of her last trimester -- maybe even saying that she wishes that this baby would come early

You seethe inside, knowing what it means to deliver a premature baby

You feel belittled and misunderstood

You wish that you could have done something to control the preterm birth…you feel angry, thinking that she is acting as if having a preemie is "no big deal"…precautions, merely going through the motions…

You feel as if she is taking having a normal, healthy baby for granted…

Seeing other women go through their pregnancies without incident can stir up jealousy, anger and intense longing in parents who delivered their babies early. Watching someone else walk the path that you had expected to take yourself can be intensely lonely. You want to go back -- make your pregnancy and delivery uncomplicated, just as you had planned. You may feel terrible guilt for being angry. You might swallow your jealousy and berate yourself for wishing to trade places with those women. You may wonder if there is something wrong with you for wanting other pregnant women to understand what they are taking for granted. Most of all, you wish that you could return to that time of innocence, when you, too, had these expectations.

Consider keeping a journal or writing a list of your own wishes for a healthy pregnancy, and the losses you feel about the pregnancy you had. If you choose to, share this with friends and family so that they can better understand what you are grieving.