Discussed This Month
|advice from the preemie-l discussion board http://home.vicnet.net.au/~garyh/preemie_forum|
|Olga writes, "Call me crazy but let's hear you finish the sentence. Maybe we can all share the guilt...It's kind of cleansing to put it to print.I couldn't even carry him (her) full-term; the least I could do is...|
|--Breastfeed for a YEAR
--Not let him cry
--Cuddle him all day
--Buy him a car!
--Protect him from his BIG brother
--Throw him an outrageous birthday party
--Not work so I could spend the entire day with him
--Play with him and take him to all sorts of fun places -- Olga
5 weeks expressing 11 gallons of breastmilk for a baby who was too weak to nurse after
---Let her sleep with us on a full size bed.
|-- CARRY HER TO 25 1/2 wks........ because at
18 weeks they told me they couldn't find a heartbeat & it appeared that I was having a
spontaneous abortion following a hemorrhage which actually just landed me on "beauty
bed rest" for over 7 weeks.
-- Let her father name her Angela - for she truly is our Angel.
-- Stay in practical isolation with her for the past year - especially following the holiday season 5wk hosp with RSV and all the vents, med addictions & transfusions.
-- Give up my 10+ year career with GM to provide all of my attention to all of her needs and help her with her development.
-- Volunteer as a Parent Support Person - for Parents of Preemies at "her" former residence (get me outta this isolette, NICU, mi 42297) - This way I can hopefully make a difference for other moms, dads & families of other preemie babies.
-- Promise to myself - that no matter what - I will not ever "make it a topic of conversation" later in life in front of her making her feel uncomfortable or different in any way from that of a full-term child.
-- Continue the motto: When the going gets tough, just get tougher ! ! !
-- Love her with all I've got to give......... -- Kristin - mom to Angela-just turned 1 yr 4/22/98; mom to Sarah-(FT)just turned 10
--Dress her like a
--Preserve their brother's memory for them...
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