Topics Discussed This Month
|wisdom from the Preemie-l e-mail group|
|Laura inquires, "Okay. I have been
thinking about this for awhile. What do you think is the single most important piece of
advice you would give to a new parent entering the NICU? It dawned on me one day that my
advice would be the following...
If you want something done, get a doctor to order it!! So many times I would get upset about something and talk to the neo and she would "order" that things be done. That way no one could disobey!! When Grace was only being fed once every few feedings, someone went out of order and when I arrived to feed her, it was time for a gavage feeding. I was so bummed. But it dawned on me that the doc was there, so I went over and asked her to change the order to read that anytime I was there, I could attempt to feed her. The nurse couldn't let me but the doc could ORDER it!!"
Cathi advises, "I agree with Laura, with the addition that you get to KNOW at least one of the neos, so you can get them (if you can find them ;) to write up orders for you. I was lucky and had one terrific nurse who was also my lactation consultant who made it a point to include me and to ask the reigning neo questions in front of me, (for my benefit) so I could also ask things, and get to know them so I was comfortable asking them things when she wasn't Emily's nurse that day."
Denise says, "I would have to say......Get involved with the care of your child and learn all you can about babies before you go home. I got to give Brianna baths and change her diapers. The nurses even let me stay as long as I wanted except for during shift changes. I would leave and take a nap during these times. And for those nurses that I became friends with I would asked lots of questions about how to take care of a baby. Like "What do you recommend for diaper rashes? and other odd questions that you don't think of until you are already home. I took a note pad and wrote down questions and answers. I didn't always us their advise but it was nice to have several perspectives to draw from. Remember - It's your baby!!! If you don't like something let them know. Discuss it, and make changes as necessary. You are paying them to take care of your child - That means you are the boss!!!And lastly, get as much rest as you can. Because when you bring that precious little one home - Sleep becomes a thing of the past!!!!"
Thomas writes, "There are two important
mantras. The first, which the doctors and nurses will tell you, is two steps forward
and one step backward. But the second, maybe more important and the one that all the
parents will tell you is that YOU are your Emma's best advocate, and you need to trust
your instincts and insist on the things that you think are best for her. Right now,
you may feel clueless, but, as I said, soon you will be an expert, and once you have
knowledge, you should not be afraid to put it to use.
Christy adds, "...my suggestions: take as active a
role in your daughter's care that is allowed. As soon as you are able, kangaroo care
(let us know if you are not familiar with KC, and we will help you learn about this
awesome way to bond and help her thrive); give her massage if she can handle the
stimulation (let us know if you want to learn more about infant massage); read to her and
sing songs to her and spend as much time at the hospital as is healthy for you (that is an
important caveat -- it is not good for anyone for you to be there all day long).
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