Posted by julie on August 09, 1998 at 02:34:17:
In Reply to: 'Bud' posted by Karen Cork on August 08, 1998 at 13:15:37:
Oh karen,
how i wish i could be there to give you a big hug and ease some of your sadness. whether at six weeks, six months gest. or six months after birth, losing a baby is losing a love, losing a long-sought after future, and oh so painful. i'm so sorry you have to go through this.
treat yourself well. give griffin extra big hugs (like I have to tell you that!). clean, clean, and clean again. try to take some quiet time for your own healing; physical and emotional. and be easy on yourself.
after i miscarried i had such a huge range of emotions. one of them was such frustration that my prayers, positive vislualizations, etc. "didn't work. and one of them was a new-found strength and the understanding that i am not in control ... and that's okay. i found an odd kind of peace in that. strange? i'm not sure. but i think it's what helped me get through the pp and nicu with cole walker. it sounds like you have found a new strength as well.
please know you and kevin and griffin and sweet bud are in my family's thoughts. be well.
love,
julie
mom to tucker, 3, and cole walker, 1,